Can autism moms stop putting out articles saying that bc they have a kid/kids on the autism spectrum:
That they’re ‘superior moms’
‘War hardened’
Sad that they don’t have a neurotypical child
“My child makes me depressed, makes me cry,” etc etc
Discouraged that their child doesn’t learn at the same rate as others
Embarrassed by their kid
“I’ve called my friends on multiple occasions, crying in the closet, telling them about my hardships”
These are all real things I’ve read in articles. They’re quoted from memory, but I assure you that they’re things that actual people have said.
Stop. Saying. That your autistic child embarrassed you. That they’ll never move out. That they’ll never get a good education. That they’ll never get a good job. Or a job at all. I’m sick of it.
“It’s so hard being an Autism Mom!” Well try being the autistic kid, having to deal with a parent that is constantly wishing that they’re kid was NORMAL, that their kid could do this or that without having a meltdown.
Listen. Im not speaking on behalf of people on the autism spectrum, not at all.
I’m saying this from the point of view of a person without autism, but I’m tired of seeing my sister, who is on the spectrum, constantly be effected by comments like these. She’s convinced our parents hate her. She thinks she’s worthless. She thinks she’s a burden.
And it’s these articles that take part of the blame for that.
So if you have a kid on the spectrum, accept them and love them and support them just like you would with a neurotypical child.
I’m autistic and I approve of this message. Pass it on, y'all! Autistic or not, reblog it!
Parents who truly love their autistic kids don’t spend every moment telling the internet how horrible life is with an autistic child.
I understand that many parents can’t find access to respite care and the autistic child needs 2:1 or even 3:1 care when only 2 people are available– or even just 1. I GET IT…but that’s not autism’s fault, that’s not your child’s fault. That’s the fault of an ableist system that won’t do the work of helping you take care of your child.
Serenading the internet about another pulled off diaper and poop smearing extravaganza only ‘smears’ your autistic child. Only sharing the ugly and bad stuff misrepresents autism into the stigmatized thing it is today.
Autistic people read those words, and like OP’s sister, and like me, our hearts are broken.
I’m lucky; I showed my mom some “Autism Mom™” blogs and she slapped it off her iPad and said “I can’t stand those women! I can’t stand them! Never in my life have I thought like that about you! No mother who loves her child thinks about them like those women. They should be ashamed of themselves to put that out in public!” And my mom said that after I was a very difficult child with several behavior issues. I put her through hell as a kid and she never once thought about me like Autism Moms™ think about their kids. My mom never lies to me, so I believe her.
If my mom can avoid being That Mom, other moms can too. Get a therapist or rant in a journal, but keep it off the internet. Stop embarrassing your autistic / disabled kids!
This is actually what you should say to an ICE agent who has come to your house looking for an undocumented immigrant.
Specifically, do not open the door; tell them to slide their warrant under the door. Read it carefully and check to see if it’s a JUDICIAL warrant, which will have specific information like the time and location where they’re allowed to search, and a specific description of who or what they’re allowed to search for. ICE practically *never* have this; they’ll have an ADMINISTRATIVE warrant, which is just their orders from their boss telling them to arrest a particular person. It does not give them the right to enter your house.
ICE *can* enter your house if they have probable cause, such as if they see the person they’re looking for through a window or door (which is why you don’t open the door). Other forms of probable cause include kids telling agents that they were born outside of the US. Agents will trick people into chatting with them, especially kids who serve as translators for their parents, asking things like “What part of Mexico are you from?” Staying silent keeps the onus on them to prove in court later that they had evidence someone isn’t here legally.
It’s important to remember that for now, at least, every person ICE wants to deport has to go before a judge, and ICE has to provide evidence that they know this person is undocumented and that they were arrested without violating the 4th amendment (against unreasonable search and seizure). We know that cops lie and that judges usually side with them, but agents would rather go for a sure bet from a targeted raid than risk wasting their time and energy on arrests that could be thrown out. Knowing your rights and being prepared makes you a more difficult target.
“I do not consent to entry without a warrant.”
(This information comes from notes I took at a workshop on being an immigration ally. Learn more at welcomingamerica.org)
ACTUALLY, ICE will wave around anything and call it a warrant and unless you’re a lawyer chances are you won’t be able to tell, so call a lawyer. ICE often comes in civilian vehicles and clothes, will often conceal their badges from you and will even lie about who they are, and they’ve been known to work with police. You shouldn’t open the door. Call your lawyer, a volunteer lawyer group that assists immigrants or a response network* first. Never say anything that might reveal you’re an immigrant at all to any cop, not even if you are arrested for something else. Call your lawyer and let them deal with it.
ICE presentara cualquier cosa y la llamara un warrant, y aunque usted sea un abogado, probablemente no sabra la diferencia, asi que llame a su abogado. ICE muy seguido se presenta en ropa y autos civiles sin marcas, obscuren sus placas y pueden hasta mentir aceca de quienes son, aveces hasta trabajan con policia local para hacer arrestos de immigracion. No habra la puerta. Llame a su abogado, un grupo de abogados voluntarios que asistan a immigrantes o un grupo de respuesta* primero. Nunca diga nada que revele que es usted un immigrante a ningun policia, ni siquiera si usted esta ciendo arrestado por ortra razon. Llame a su abogado y dejen que ellos lideen con ICE.
Here is what a Judicial warrant looks like:
Asi es como se ve un warrant judicial:
This what an immigration warrant looks like:
Asi se ve un warrant de immigracion:
If the warrant looks like this, you don’t have to let them in. Either way, call your lawyer and if you see ICE or suspect you see them, call someone who responds to ICE raids.
Si el warrant se ve como este, usted no tiene que dejarlos entrar. En qualquier caso, llame a su abogado y si ve a ICE o sospecha que los ve llame a alguen que responda a raids de ICE.
*Response networks. Research online if there’s a network of people in your area who respond to ICE raids, you can also ask at local temples or churches if they know of one. These are people whom you call on the phone, they give you brief instructions and send respondents to your location to assist you, serve as witnesses and document what happens so you can use that information to your defense.
*Grupos de respuesta. Busque en linea si hai un grupo de gente en su area que responda a raids de ICE, tambien puede preguntar en tempos o iglecias locales si conocen de uno. Estas son personas que usted llama en el telephono, le dan instuciones breves y llaman socorristas a su locacion a asistirle, servir como testigos y documentar lo que suseda para que usted pueda usar esa informacion en su defensa.
so this kid he used to bully me in middle school before i got tough, well this is kind of a funny story. so i sugar from time to time but my latest
sugar mommys house is so extra and i didnt bring my glasses but im going through the house because she told me to make myself at home and i see a family photo and im just like he looks really familiar but i cant make out shit. and so she and i start talking and shes like yeah i have a son your age actually and im just like wait… and she was like you’ll meet him later when we go to the car show, and im just like fuckin wait.. and we get to the car show and its me and her we’re holding hands being friendly and shes like and heres my son. and i shit u not this is the same dude who used to fucking bully me in middle school and he starts fucking crying because he didnt know his mom was lesbian and i was just like hey its been a while, but im getting fucked by your mom.
